Reflections on Solo Traveling

I fancied myself a pretty competent independent traveller but things became shamefully co-dependent once I got married. In a recent long flight on my own where he wouldn’t be waiting at the airport, I was a ball of nerves. What if I got lost at immigration, what if I didn’t find my bag, what if […]

Read More

Reflections on Self Preservation

I stumbled into the yawning jaws of mild depression in the last quarter of the past year. It was mild because deep inside I had some confidence that I would eventually come out of the tunnel. That eventually, the compulsion to wallow in terrible melancholia will slowly start to ebb away. In its replacement, a […]

Read More

Reflections on Our Value Bubble

Questioning the merits of living life in a value-bubble has been with me for awhile, even pre-Covid. Essentially, as we get older and accumulate a better sense of our identity, likes and dislikes, we start to remove people and circumstances which don’t fit with our life values. There is a logic and usefulness to this, […]

Read More

Reflections on our Hypocrisy

The blog has been shuffled into the background as life got in the way, and inspiration ran dry. As KL shifted into yet another semi-lockdown, new daily patterns emerged and reflecting on the interior self became harder. I decided that I would only write if a musing pursued me, instead of me pursuing musings. And […]

Read More

Reflections on Retaliation

Different themes of retaliation often whirl through my thoughts. It is the one feature of human behaviour that has debilitated our growth as an individual, a community, a nation and geo-politically. There are countless examples of how cycles of retaliations eventually demolishes us into human rubble – World War II, the Yugoslavian conflict, Rwandan genocide, […]

Read More

Reflections on Success

It seems to be the grand desire carved into so many of us – that if you haven’t ‘arrived’ you haven’t then ‘fully existed’. People tend to be enraptured by those they believe have earned a social standing, have won some recognition and public status for their visible achievements. In whatever social tribe, a hierarchy […]

Read More

Reflections on Fallen Angels

For some, so much of life has been about the deifying of another. Whether it’s parental deference, or how we elevate our life partner. It is inevitable that as life adds day to day, and we move through it all in close intimacy with our loved ones, realities emerge. I heard a saying once about […]

Read More

Reflections – Graduation Speeches

Perhaps it is a logical irony that graduation speeches make more sense two decades into full fledged adulthood, than it did when one listened to it at the brink of one’s journey. As they say, the youth is wasted on the young. At the age of 21, second-hand information seemed too speculative and abstract. Anyone […]

Read More

Reflections on Possessions

Certain world events have made me question our need to have things. When hearing about those who have lost their material belongings during the Beirut blasts, I stopped and wondered about our quest for ownership in this world. Concepts like possessing, having, and accumulating belongings repelled me with a little more intensity. Where does it […]

Read More

Reflections on The Past

The past, they say, is another country. In some ways, it is a healthy sign of our evolution, if we consider the past as a place remote and untouched by our current space. There seems to be a sense that we have moved on with the times, seized the present and are marching onwards for […]

Read More

Reflections on the Breaking Point

  When plunged in the depth of dark times we often wonder ‘why us’? Why couldn’t it all be like the ideas we wanted, the hopes we carried, the desires we nurtured. In our minds, we illogically romanticise the lives of others and how it seemed to be unharmed by the maladies that we believe […]

Read More

Reflections on Solitude

Quite often life has been about embracing our own internal fortitude in solitude. After every episode of difficulty, the reiterating lesson is often the realisation that while love and companionship are blessings, an honest lesson of evolution is one that requires us to dig inside our own internal resources for elevation. How do we live […]

Read More

Reflections on What Life Isn’t

When life fundamentally does not manifest itself to be the image you had in your head the journey is very much about shifting to accommodate your new reality. The answer is to not resist. Embrace, do all that you can to elevate the status quo to what you want it to be and accept that […]

Read More

Reflections on Uncomfortable Patterns

The Lockdown has awakened something in all of us privileged enough to sit at home and luxuriate in boredom. A time to reassess our past journey as an individual and as the collective humanity, and ask ourselves whether we want to be in auto mode or clear out some cobwebs of congestion.  A big chunk […]

Read More

Reflections on Apathy

When we reflect back on our life, it’s fair to say the most fulfiling times are those where we are fully engaged in the enterprise of living. Even when life caused us pain, the pain stems from a longing for more from existence. The most ideal combination is when we are able to balance between […]

Read More

Reflections on The Biggest Risk

Another brief rumination. The year started out with some melancholia as multiple well-known public figures left the world in such a tragic, shocking haste.  Of course, none was known personally to me but I felt as broken as the bereaved. All of the departed left behind grief-stricken spouses and children and by all accounts were […]

Read More

Reflections on Giving without Expectations

The evergreen philosophy regarding generosity advises us that we should give without expecting anything in return and yet you still get a bit shocked, angry and disappointed when those you feel you have given your time, care and effort to refuse to do anything for you that would in any way cause them some effort, […]

Read More

Reflections on the New Decade

And so another collection of 12 months have come and gone and we are here, almost two months into a fresh new decade that once seemed resolutely unattainable, lodged within a science fiction future. For the longest time now, I approach new years with some contradiction of both apathy and trepidation. That pressure to have […]

Read More

Reflections on Your Word

In life, there are those whose words and actions are in better harmony than others. The ones who when they give you their word, you never fret about whether they will deliver. And then there are those who, when they give you their word, you feel no sense of assurance. There is a high probability […]

Read More

Reflections on Failures and Death

A short reflection on the grim and macabre aspects of all that we avoid in life. Failures I think the only way we genuinely experience humility is through abject failures. I feel that life has a way of making you bow down to all that you were previously arrogant about, whether you manifested this arrogance […]

Read More

Reflections on Relocation

Lately, I’m trying to reflect on why I’ve started to have a relocation itch. It’s strange to think that I’ve been living in one place since February 2018 now. For many years I waxed lyrical that this is what I really wanted. To be back home, in an aesthetically beloved apartment, in my favourite part […]

Read More

Reflections on Rejection

To be vulnerable, to offer yourself up for public judgment, and to be rejected by others for the very same reasons you reject yourself is a terribly uncomfortable place to be. A slap in the face? A push against the wall? A mirror facing moment where you have to admit to yourself that some shortcomings […]

Read More

Reflections – Vacationing sans Gadgets

This is just a quick post to strongly recommend taking a break from online activity when taking a vacation. Recently I went through email exchanges of 10 years ago, where I was describing to my family about a Tuscan holiday I had taken with a good friend, some weeks after the holiday.  I realised that […]

Read More

Reflections on Music

What’s on my playlist? Music is so evocative and my playlist is filled with songs that have followed me for so long now, they’ve become part of me. For this post, I thought of sharing some classics from a generally melancholic genre, accompanied by the wave of nostalgia that all cherished songs offer us. (Note […]

Read More

Reflections on The Museum of Broken Relationships

I had heard a lot about the Museum of Broken Relationships in Zagreb and that was basically my only must-do when visiting this quaint Croatian capital. It didn’t disappoint. I was enraptured with every piece and walked away with my heart fuller, which is all you hope for when visiting a cultural showpiece. The museum’s […]

Read More

Reflections on the Humanitarian World

Tales of Aid Workers This year I was ready to embrace the risk of reading again, minus the heartache. So I avoided books about genocide survivors and instead reached for books about aid workers dealing with genocide survivors. Chasing Chaos byJessica Alexander is the first book I have read in a long long time that captivated […]

Read More

Reflections on Blogging

Initially, when I revealed to friends about the existence of this blog, the common reaction involves two questions – What are you planning to do with it? and Why are you doing it for?. And quite honestly, my response to these questions is ‘Nothing’ and ‘For fun’. Now, after one year of updating this blog, […]

Read More